How to Believe in Yourself

The biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people isn't intelligence or opportunity or resources. It's the belief that they can make their goals happen.

We all deal with vulnerability, uncertainty and failure. Some of us believe that if we move forward anyway, then we will figure it out.

But the question is HOW to believe in yourself?

Most of the people don't believe in themselves. And when you don't believe in yourself, you're not able to handle the rejections you get on the way to success.

Let me ask you a question. When you set your goals, who are you going to? You are going to yourself. Yet, who is often the WORST person to know what you are truly capable of? You. You are usually the least capable person to know what you're truly capable of.

Your NEGATIVE REFLECTION represents the head trash that most of us are carrying around. It's that little voice that says, "You can't do that. Who do you think you are? No one in your family has ever done that!" We all have our own Negative Reflection; but amazingly, that's NOT the real problem.

The real problem is that traditional success teachers have told us, "Well, if you don't believe in yourself, just believe in yourself." That's kind of like saying, "If you want love and support, just go to your worst enemy."

It's not that believing in yourself is wrong. It's just what when they told us to "believe in yourself", they had the wrong order.

The first stage is someone believes in you.
The second stage is you believe in someone else.
The third stage is you believe in yourself.

So what, then are the STEPS to believe in yourself?
First, find a LOVING MIRROR - someone who reflects your greatness back to you. While you may think this sounds "touchy-feely", the fact remains that every one of the happy, wealthy people has at least one person who believed in them, even when they didn't believe in themselves. That's why having a Loving Mirror is the sine qua non - the "without which, not" - of success.

To begin to find your Loving Mirrors:

First, ANSWER these key support questions...

1. What support do I need most in my life right now?
2. Who would I like to give me that support?
3. What's in it for them to support me?
4. What actions am I willing to take, to get the support I need?

Second, INTERVIEW your potential Loving Mirrors. Ask them:

1. What do you get out of me being in your life?
2. What do you see my strengths as being?
3. On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate our relationship?
4. If anything less than 10, what can I do to make it a 10?

Finally, ACKNOWLEDGE the important people in your life. List 10 people who've been important to your growth, whether you've ever met them or not. Find their contact information and connect with them. Tell them what a difference they've made in your life. But here's the key: don't expect or ask for anything in return, even if you really really want to.
Just tell them, "You've been so important in my life. I was thinking about you today, and I just wanted to thank you for making a difference in my life."

Try it. You'll find that the more you believe in others, and let others believe in you, the more you'll automatically believe in yourself. That's not only how to believe in yourself, it's also one of the fastest, easiest ways to enjoy happiness and feel confident without spending a dime.

Just be happy without a reason, keep a smile all the season,

Life is too short to be stressed, so stay happy, stay blessed!!